We all have desires and goals. A desire is something you want or wish for. A goal is something you plan to achieve. Goals are borne out of desires and dreams. However, not all desires and dreams can be converted into goals.
It is good to write down your desires. When you do that, you have increased the possibility of bringing them to life. However, the process of writing down a desire is not what converts a desire into a goal. The major difference between a desire and a goal is that the major factors in the achievement of a goal lie within your control (at least for the most part).
Let me illustrate with two scenarios.
In the first scenario, you have a desire to buy a car worth 2 million naira. So, in April, you set a ‘goal’ of buying the car by the end of December. You currently have savings of 600, 000 naira, and you know that with your income and expenses, you can put aside 200, 000 every month. Of course, putting the money aside may not be easy, but at least, you see the possibility. Here you’re confident that, barring unforeseen circumstances, you can control the factors to the best of your knowledge and get the car in December.
Here’s another scenario. In April, you set the ‘goal’ of buying a luxury car in December. It costs 10 million naira. The amount of cash in your savings account has not changed. Your income and expenses have not changed either. Except something major changes, you know that you cannot save enough money to get the car by December.
In the first scenario you have a goal. In the second scenario, you have a desire.
The whole essence of this is not to make us give up on our desires. It is to help us recognise that some things are outside of our direct control. This could apply to any kind of desire at all: spiritual, financial, health, marriage, family or career.
Trying to set a goal when you cannot control the major factors for its achievement is like buying a ticket to the land of frustration. This especially involves goals about other people. For instance, you cannot set a goal to change your spouse’s attitude by November. That’s outside your control. You can write it down as a desire.
So, what do you do with a desire?
You can try to see if there is any factor that you can change. In the scenario above, this may involve finding a new income stream or negotiating a way to get the car and pay for it later over a period of time.
You can also pray for a miracle. Write down your desires and ask God for help. With God all things are possible (of course, you should also ask for supernatural help for your goals because of unforeseen circumstances).
If you find yourself setting lofty goals and falling short every time or most times, ask yourself if you have been trying to set a goal on something that is outside of your control. Recognise that they could be desires and treat them as such until you can confidently turn them into goals. Don’t set yourself up for frustration.
Have you ever had a desire that you tried to set as a goal? Let us know how it worked out in the comment section!