Many motivational and spiritual programmes have taken place since the end of last year to the beginning of this year. All of these programmes were focused on helping us make and get the most out of the ‘new year’. We all want positive and progressive change in every area of our lives: our families, our health, our spirituality, our careers, our finances…
Well, let us go straight to the truth of the matter. Absolutely NOTHING will change about your circumstances if you are not willing to put in the effort and work required to change.
It’s amazing how so many of us want things to change, yet we remain the same person we have always been, think the same way we have always thought and do the same things we have always done. That’s self-delusion. If anything changes at all, it will just be as a result of God’s mercy or pure chance.
Think about it, you are at this level of your life (in different areas) because of who you are. The combination of your thoughts, beliefs, actions, inactions and associations brought you to this point in your life. So, if you continue in the same thoughts, beliefs, actions, inactions and associations, how do you expect anything to change?
If you want a change in any area of your life, be prepared to change some of your own beliefs, habits and actions. Otherwise, things may remain just about the same for you by the end of this year.
I know personal change can be extremely uncomfortable and will require a lot of focus, commitment and discipline. However, you must make a choice: Either pay the price of discipline or get ready for things to remain the way they have been.
Prayer is good, but it’s only a part of the solution. Let a lot of your prayers be about asking for the grace of God to help you change what you need to change.
In addition, consider the following:
One: Take responsibility for your current circumstances. Regardless of whomever you’d like to blame (whether it’s the so-called recession, the government, the lack of infrastructure, your background, your family or friends), you directly or indirectly participated in getting to this circumstance of your life. There are people who have been in worse conditions and have managed to forge ahead. You may have a reason, but you don’t have an excuse.
Accepting responsibility for your circumstances actually puts you in a position of power, even though you may not realise it. You’ll discover that you are in a position to decide and act of what would bring change.
Two: Decide on baby steps. Decide on some things that you’d like to see change about yourself. It’s actually better and more effective for you to take things one step at a time. You may want to change many things, but take gradual steps.
For instance, when I wanted to improve my work productivity, I didn’t do much. I just changed my workstation and my timing. Those two actions took a lot of discipline from me, and that was all I could handle at that time. It was effective enough to help me get better.
Three: Get a support system. As much as you can, ask for the support of the people around you. Changing a habit or thought system is serious work, especially if it has been a part of you for a very long time. Ask your family, friends and colleagues to help you. If you can afford to, you can also work with a coach.
I pray that this year will see the realization of your desires and that you’ll be a stronger and better person by the end of the year.
It is well with you.